pivotal

I have been a parent for the past almost 11 years. Sometimes it feels a lot longer and there even those days that the the almost 8 years for the second son should be added on. My husband and I have gone about our parenting days, attempting to mold the little minds that we have been given so that they will survive in the world. We teach manners, right and wrong, dont chew with our mouth full, and when to wipe. Up until now, life has been easy. (and easy is a relative thing...) There have no major issues; connor is grossed out by naked girls/women, and really has no desire to "like" anyone. I'm okay with that.
Deoderant and the consistant wearing of it is at times a struggle. As is brushing teeth. I have told both of them that I reserve the right to say "I told ya so" when the dentist says " You have a Cavity".
We have come to a crossroads now. Both boys are in public school in our school district. And up wuntil now, there have not been any issues with either on of my boys. Fear of the future has now set in, knowing that Connor will "graduate" onto 6th grade. I am not so sure he is ready. Now, every child goes through the Im Not Ready for this stage. My fear lies in the fact that I dont know if 5th grade has been or is now preparing them for what lies ahead. Academically. Socially. It is  hard to have two bookends hold up books when one of them is soft. I feel that connors teacher is not holding up her side of the bargain.  And I think that my son is not the only one that is suffering. My friend disagrees with me totally, and seemed to put it on me; that we werent holding up the end of our deal.  I supposed that could be true, I am not perfect and cannot always remember everything. The teacher sees him more than I do and I thought that she would have been a bit more involved in reminding and shaping. Maybe my expectations of the teacher is too high and I am lacking in teacher/parental skills. Hes my first ya know.
We have to decide whether to keep the boys in a traditional school and hope for the best;that Connor will "get it" and it will all kick in, or we try another school. I have to do what is best for my children, providing the best education, skills and shaping that I can. Hopefully with the guidance that we are recieving, we will make the right choice for our boys. And hopefully they wont hate us for it.